One of the hardest things in the world is learning how to ask for help. Ever since a young age, people are molded by societal norms that dictate that asking for help is a sign of weakness or a sign that you can’t be self-sufficient. That could not be farther from the truth. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength because it takes a lot more grit to ask for someone’s help than to internalize all of the emotions that you feel.
For people suffering from disorders caused by traumatic stress like PTSD, it is more important than ever to learn how to ask for help, because once you ask, there will be plenty of people that can offer you PTSD support in ways as easy as having a conversation.
At Peer Support Central, we offer critical incident stress management training courses for people that have, or know, someone with PTSD so that they may be better able to cope or provide peer support to those that need it most. PTSD is extremely common in members of the military, as well as in first responders whose job description practically guarantees a traumatic experience or two.
How To Ask For Help
Below, we have outlined a couple of tips that can make asking for help, or understanding why someone is struggling to ask for help more clear.
- Write down your issues. When suffering from PTSD, some people may justify holding in their own emotions because they “just wouldn’t know what to say.” If this is how you feel, it is important to write out what exactly you feel, and what things that you wish you could talk about. This is an important step because often times when people reach out for help, and receive it, they freeze up upon conversing, throwing back up their emotional walls because “dealing with the devil you know is easier than the devil you don’t” for most people.
- Make a list of the people your trust. After making a list of the things that you feel like you should talk about, it is important to make a list of the people that you trust. Once you have a list of all the people that you trust, you can begin to start narrowing the list down to people that you would feel comfortable disclosing your troubles to. Once you have done so, ask a few people for help, as they may have different backgrounds or understandings from one another, resulting in multiple different points of view. Additionally, talking to multiple people can feel more supportive. Unlike boxing, you can have more than one person in your corner when recovering from PTSD.
- Reach out. Once you have narrowed down who you feel comfortable asking for help, you need to reach out. Keep in mind, this may be the hardest part, as up until this point everything may have seemed hypothetical. Once you reach out, feel good knowing that you have done the best possible thing for yourself.
Step Four: Take a PTSD Support Training Course & And Help Others
Whether you have and are dealing with PTSD, or know someone who is, taking a PTSD Support training course can be a valuable experience. Not only will it help you better understand what you are going through, but it can also show you how to help others.
At Peer Support Central, we offer many training courses including critical incident stress management courses for military training as well as training for first responders. It is our goal to teach people the valuable ways to provide peer support and PTSD support for both yourself or others.